How to be happy?

I was recently asked, “Why are you so happy all the time?” It got me thinking. I used to not be so happy. I had a couple of things that changed my life for the better. I realized life isn’t a given it is a gift. I began to understand every minute or second we have if indeed an opportunity to make a change. This is the answer to how to be happy?

If you keep doing what you have always done you will always be in the same place. The five things you need to change right now are :

How to be happy

1) How you feel about yourself

2) How you allow people to treat you

3) How you determine what is important

4) The way you communicate

5) The goals you have for yourself

Let’s explore the first thing. How do you feel about yourself? Can you look at yourself in the mirror and like what you see? Do you feel good about who you are? I had a friend post recently that she felt less than someone else. They were more educated than her and more professionally accomplished. I reminded her that it isn’t what or who you know. It isn’t what you own or where you have been. It is really about how you treat others. People who are helpful and kind are welcomed by anyone. I believe being yourself is the greatest gift you can give. Let’s face it there isn’t anyone like you. I give you permission to embrace and celebrate who you are.

I have seen it time and time again someone is being treated badly by someone else. You are allowing that to happen it is true. If you aren’t around or you no longer put up with it they can’t treat you like that. I say surround yourself with people that lift you up. If you do not know what that looks like or feels like than get help. If talking to or being with that person brings on a sense of anxiety than please get out of that relationship. We have all had a friend or lover that drained our awesome. You need your awesome move on and find someone that loves, respects, and embraces you!

Know what is important. Important things are different to each one of us. It is more important to me that my children know they are loved than buying them random junk. It is more important to me that we pay for their school than splurge on Disney. We even said, No to Disney. It is more important to me to hold my husbands hand and sit outside and talk than dining in a fancy place. It is more important to me to show my children how to give than receive. It is important to me to take a moment each day to be thankful. It is important to me to try to act with kindness which isn’t always easy than to be right. What is important is up to you but do not get caught up in things that are not important because it is wasteful and you aren’t wasteful.

I have been reading a book called

The Heart of the 5 Love Languages

I am learning how to communicate what I want and need in a way that the people I love will not only hear it but take action. It is often a struggle to get what you need but that is because you weren’t saying what you need in the correct way. I am learning to be more direct and logical then emotional. It is a hard journey but the success is worthwhile.

The fifth and final way to get happy is to have goal. A goal is something that is measurable. If you were trying to determine if you were happy. Then you would define what happiness is to you. Then what it takes to be happy. This is my happy goal. I will read for thirty minutes a day without being bothered. This is my book list to read for 2015 I just love to read in case you are also a book nerd. I will do so daily. This will lead to my happiness because reading is something that makes me happy. It is hard to achieve happiness without defining what it is to you. You need to have goals that you can accomplished based on your actions. You can’t make goals that rely on others like I will be happy if he is nicer to me. That isn’t a goal you can control so it isn’t achievable your goal should be something you can do. I will bake once a week because I like how the house smells and then I will give the baked goods to a friend to pay it forward because paying it forward makes me happy.

Happiness is actionable if you define what it is that makes you the happiest. What is it that makes you happy?

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